To give you some weights, I weigh in at 250lbs (113kg) and 6foot-2inches (187cm). A bag of sand is 50lbs (22kg), if needed I could put two a side (200lb total), and/or get gravel bags if I want the weight to be more compact. Of course, I can always try it and see, but does anyone have any experience with using ballast?
Some notes - I'm sailing for my own enjoyment, not racing. Right now, I'm dealing with the wind by sailing on main alone. Tacking is a pain... doable but I miss stays at least every 4th or 5th tack. For next year, I'll get some reefpoints sewn into my sail. I have none now, so I depower by flattening the sail and twisting it off. However, as this is a gusty wind, as soon as I set up for 20 knots, I'm back to 12ish.... My vang setup is pretty easy to adjust and I'm re-rigging my outhaul to make it easier than it is now. Still, I could really use something to help me settle the boat down in the gusts when I'm singlehanding. My usual crew keeps telling me about something called "work" that is keeping him too busy to sail with me.

Thanks in advance for any pointers!
Tom