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hinged sleeve" design. No fuss no muss.
The sleeve fully captures the mast foot, so raising the mast is no different from a tabernacle, except the mast is a bit longer. Open cups are not as secure and you would need to ensure the mast foot doesn't slip out. That's perhaps fine with a helper.
The sleeve part is different from a tabernacle. Once the mast is almost perfectly aligned vertically, you will be able to lower it. Before, it will tend to rest on the mast partners. Once it's aligned, it's easy to lower. Someone your size should be able to do it from the cockpit floor. Two hands on the mast 3 feet apart is how I do it.
Having a helper stand on deck to assist is something I recommend until you get the hang of it.
The sleeve will just let the mast slide down when it's vertical. In the begining I thought I'd need to pin the mast foot while raising it. But it is surprisingly easy to control the mast from sliding while horizontal. As soon as you get it halfways vertical, the foot will rest on the edge of the partners and the whole mast will not drop until it is aligned. The alignment is so good on my boat that it is almost enough to aim the mast foot at the mast jack.
I know I did solo trips with my boat almost immediately after a friend helped me puzzle out how it was set up during the maiden voyage, and that means that simple device that I inherited from some previous owner did what it was supposed to.
I later experimented with a tripod. It turned out that was unnecessary, so it sat unused until I had a shoulder injury. Then it was a godsend but that's again long in the past. It might be of use if you are shorter, not as strong or lighter. It's a bit fussy to use but will fully control your mast if used with the hinged sleeve, or without if a helper can hold the mast foot in place. In the linked thread, the person modeling it is much smaller than me, but had no problem getting the mast up. In a way, it's a portable version of your gantry
